Sign

Why you — as a woman or a girl — always give so much sign and code to everyone you meet?

I felt annoyed and confused when my friends ask me to join them— which was called afternoon coffe — because I Hadn’t joined for a long time, but I felt unfamiliar with them. Every topic they brought up made me like stranger among them. They have some codes and jokes that I can’t understand.

And when I asked what happened they just kept quiet and made me into looser person who wants to know people’s business.

Dear girls and women, if you don’t want me to know your secret just silent and don’t give me a code or sign I can’t even ask.

Because islam teaches us about this,

“If there are three of you, then let two people talk or whisper together while not inviting the third until you mix with other people. Because this could make the third person sad”

(HR. Imām Bukhāri dan Imām Muslim and their lafazh are found in Shahīh Muslim)

Don’t make me feel like I’m just a clown when you ask me to join.

SNA

Bandung, February 2nd, 2024