Self Diagnose When You Feel Drained
Its been a month when I met my friend who work as psychologist at my work place.
My friend, let’s name her Sherina, said that when we drained by our routine, we must identify it is fed up or has become a threat.
But must of us think that it has become a threat that disturbs our peace and comfort.
We are used to making it a part ourselves so that we’ll uneasy for being free and comfortable when we don’t have any problems. And it causes our soul to always be alert because we feel that threats have become part of our lives.
Other impacs are we never feel freedom and become what we are. We always feel become an anomaly when our path isn’t the same way with others even though everyone’s path of life is certainly different. We never know that our starting line will be someone else finishing line, vice versa.
The conclusion of this feeling of being bored and drained boiled down to our desire for someone to take care of us. If you are single, you need a partner who’ll takes care of you. Your need isn’t dating but marriage.
Why does this sound so conservative?
Because Sherina said that there are many studies that say that marriage that is bond that a normal relationship willn’t have and it relatable with Islamic teaching that marriage will give you peace or we can say ‘sakinah’ and it causes fellings of love or we called, mawaddah in arabic. After this ‘mawaddah’, it’ll give the husband and wife a feeling of affection or in arabic it’s called ‘Rahmah’.
But when we haven’t been able to reach that solutions (marriage), we can break it down into writing. Because writing process gives us a calm mind.
So, don’t ever self diangnose when you feel fed up and drained. Take your time to think, discuss it with your best friends, and get married!
(Or write what’s in your head, I mean)
Bandung, 3 November 2024
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